Conflicts In Social Media vs Primary Group


Once upon a time a social network only included the primary and secondary groups of one’s life.  This is still true, however expanded to include another named: Social media: Facebook, twitter and a host of others. One may have inquired that they are two distinct entities, one cannot be closer or farther from the truth.  In in group settings one has the primary group, that would consist immediate family members, ones that have an enduring relationship, shared activities and highly influential over one another.  The secondary group, would be one’s temporary members such as: schools, employments, or sports teammates. Regardless, of the grouping there will be conflict in both, however it is when the grouping overlaps each other the concepts of conflict resolution become blurred of primary or secondary. What was once a measured theme of conflict communications must extend it self for two distinct entities; Social Network and Social Media.

Keywords:  Social Media, Social Network, Conflict Resolution.

The Clash of Two Titans

There is one’s family, then there is one’s family, however the question today is which one is the primary? Considering today’s technology, one can be in another country yet be emotionally closer than another whom resides in the same resident. If there is conflict in one’s primary grouping, why seek resolutions when there is another family in the wings waiting. Social media was marketed as a tool to bring distant family and friends together on a shared platform as if they were standing next to each other in the same room twenty-four hours access to each other. But awh, that Proverb’s warning rears its wise head: Familiarity breeds contempt; conflict pursues, and structured resolutions is warranted.

Types of Conflicts

Conflicts stems from fear, force, fair or funds. Fear is an imaginary concern based on an uncertainty degree of a future outcome. Conflicts are initiated and finished by a force either mental or physical action. Inequalities, one feels that they are exposed, the sense of moral fairness is a cause of conflict. Monetary or tangible items is the majority cause of conflicts. (, 2017)

Primary Social Network Conflict Resolutions

Traditional social network analysis is presented in structural linage of the function of each entity. A traditional social network diagram focuses on a small family enclaved grouping, in the United States the average size of an American family as of 2016 is 2.53 people. (2016, 2017) This sampling of entities falls into the positive valencene ratio of resolution. According to social network methodologically conflict linage concepts, of outlining the components on the conflict and their influence. However, the best way to toachieve a social network conflict resolution is to prevent conflict, according to statistics there are only 2.3 average members of a household, so one would assume that conflict is not a huge factor, that thought would be different from the 40% to 50% divorce rate in the United States and subsequent marriages divorce rate being higher.  Conflict prevention is a tool needed to help preserve the traditional social network. Let us start with the 5 basics structure of prevention and escalating of traditional social network conflict. (, 2017)

Step 1

Set boundaries for conflict resolution. There will always be disagreements, and to a point they can be a healthy sign of communications. The goal is to set structure how a social network communicated. This in includes non-verbal such as: raised voices, and body language. Verbal uses such as: disrespectful languages, name calling and blaming.  This is when time should be taken out to discuss the conflict after a certain time has lapses.


Step 2

Choose your battles. One does not have to answer to every conflict they are called. However, in a primary network social network, one should acknowledge a person feelings or opinion, however maintain strict to establish rules set by the social network.

Step 3

Social network meeting scheduled times are productive structure which allow members to understand that their grievances will be heard in a non-judging, open minded environment.

Step 4

Always remain neutral when a conflict is between individual in a social network. Showing favorite opinions for one devalues the other’s view.

Step 5   When preparing extended social network function, be diligent in scheduling activities that leave little room for conflicts or can be a source of conflict. Remembering that idles hands are the devil’s workshop.  (Morin 2015)


Social Media Conflict Resolution

The fraternal twin of traditional social network, where do one end and the other begin? The answer to the question of when traditional social network ends and social media begins is a conflict in its own. As social media applications are as close as one’s hand. Taken the above conflict resolution influence linage structure, one must then understand the additional audience. This includes those that are not directly affected and those whom are not directly involved. As an example: Mother and child have a conflict over which type of clothing is appropriate for an event.

At this time Step 1 is taken, each given the other time to decipher the conflict on their own. Both either the parent and/or child, then proceeds to post on their social media network about the incident. According to a Common-Sense Media poll from August 2009, 22 percent of teenagers log on to their favorite social media site more than 10 times a day, and more than half of adolescents log on to a social media site more than once a day. Seventy-five percent of teens now own cell phones, and 25 percent use them for social media, 54 percent for texting, and 24 percent for instant messaging. (Anon, 2017) Keeping in mind that one can have unlimited “friends” on social media, so everyone being an “expert” on the family values, because of their binge watching of “Dr. Phil”, “Oprah” or “Fix My Life”  comments on what the parent or the child should do to resolve their conflict and in addition some will post stories of parental and child relationships that have escalated to criminal actions, to exclamation their point.

Teenagers access their social media networks for the following: to extend their existing friendships (secondary becomes primary), supportive emotional in shared thoughts and likes, to seek structured support and advice which they may lack within their primary social network, and to gain answers to health concern.  (Carroll, J.A. & Kirkpatrick, R.L. (2011) Digesting this data, and including the data mentally into one’s traditional social network conflict is damaging if filtered to one own’s circumstances without reason and caution. The statistics of adolescent use of social media gives need for those who structured by the primary social network.

Before the grace of God goes I, so to keep conflict resolution on the square, one must look at the primary structures usage of social media and how they are affected and the effect on the conflict resolutions of the primary family social network.  The Pew Research Center have found that in year 2014 that 59% of United States parents who use social media stated that data found on their social network concerning parenting was useful to them in their family structure, the mother with 66% compared to the 48% of fathers. (Media, 2017)

The percentage given should be noted that based on gender stereotypes, that the feminine genders are more likely to engage in communications with others and have thin ego boundaries compared to the masculine gender. The report was based on data from a survey conducted in 2014 of 1,235 parents in the United States who use social media. Some 42% of respondents say they have received social or emotional support from their online networks about a parenting issue in the last 30 days (50% of mothers, compared with 28% of fathers). A third (31%) of parents who use social media say they have posed parenting questions to their online networks in the last 30 days (mothers and fathers are equally likely to have done so.). (Media, 2017) In keeping with the changing personal user’s technology a traditional social network structure must be adjusted to include social media as a a component of traditional family conflict resolution.


Readjusting Traditional Social Network Conflict.

Social media influence of interpersonal communications can be attributed to the surge of information one gathers and deciphers this data. One could assume that a mature mind will able to comprehend data given and related or not to their primary social network structure. However, for the sake of argument a look at a structure which would include the fraternal twin social media to the tradition family conflict resolution. The Dynamic Network Chart should be structured  for conflict resolution, while integrating the 5 steps of conflict prevention within each level, remembering concerns on non-verbal communications, validating each party’s point of view,  the bystander point of view may be pertinent to one party opinion. As examples of such conflict prevention and conflict resolutions are charted below; the cure and the cause, noted in the chart there are similarities in all charts, this defines the importance of the factors listed.














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